Great Places to Go and Things to Do on a First Date (and other dates too!)
Where you choose to go on a first date is an important consideration. Even the most potentially compatible people might not feel the magic if the place you meet for the first time is too loud or chaotic, or makes one or both of you feel uncomfortable. Since the idea is to enjoy the process of getting to know each other, comfort is key. Check with your date ahead of time to be sure your choice sounds like something they'll enjoy, and be open to their suggestions.
Choose a place where you're able to have a conversation, NOT a movie theater or noisy bar. Depending on your personality and your comfort with making conversation, having coffee in a quiet cafe may provide the perfect opportunity to get to know one other. Lunch is good too, as long as the restaurant is not too fancy or loud. Dinner is often a bigger deal, so stick to lighter venues for the first date.
Coming up with excellent first date spots and activities is not as difficult as you may think. Start by remembering places you liked to go and things you liked to do when you were a kid: zoos, amusement parks, mini-golf? As an adult, what places and activities do you enjoy? Wine tasting, art galleries, flea markets? Here are some great places to go and things to do on a first date (and other dates too!):
- zoo, planetarium, or aquarium
- farmer's market or botanic gardens
- mini-golf or bowling
- amusement park or a local tourist attraction
- hiking, walking, or biking
- casual lunch or a picnic in the park
- wine tasting, art galleries, museums
- antique show or boat/car show
- try something new!
To reduce the likelihood of potentially awkward, embarrassing, or dangerous situations here are some places and activities to avoid on a first date:
- going to either of your homes (unless you are well-acquainted prior to dating, stick to busy, public places)
- a movie or a play (not much opportunity to chat)
- meeting friends and family (save this for when you know each other better)
- activities at which only one of you is an expert (leave your black belt at home!)
- going to a bar (too noisy and there's potential to overdo it)
No matter what you choose, the first date should be low-key and fun for both of you, offering a chance to learn what you have in common and what you don't. Even if you run into a dealbreaker right at the start, you can still enjoy the date for what it is while practicing the art of getting to know someone new!All Articles