How to Write an Amazing Online Dating Profile that Works!
Investing the time and effort into creating an attention-getting online dating profile is an excellent first step toward attracting responses from people with the qualities you're looking for. Before you start writing, it's important to be clear with yourself, and then in your profile, about what you are hoping to find: love, marriage, friendship, a committed relationship, an activity partner to hike, bike or go dancing with from time to time, or maybe a combination of these things.
In profile writing, as in dating, relationships, and life, integrity and honesty are essential qualities. Being dishonest in your profile or photos and then communicating with, and possibly meeting people in person under these false pretenses, will only lead to disaster. Be honest about who you are and what you look like. If you're having trouble writing about your finer qualities and things you like to do, without embellishing, make a list or ask a good friend to help you brainstorm. Take to heart the wise words of Spencer Johnson, "Integrity is telling myself the truth. And honesty is telling the truth to other people," then write sincerely from the heart.
To begin, use a word processing program, like Word, to create your profile. This makes it easy to check for spelling and grammar mistakes before you post on the sites you're joining, and also gives you a document you can easily update and fine-tune in the future.
One of the first things you'll do when registering with an online dating service is to create a username. Take this opportunity to get some attention by choosing one that highlights your unique features: you're romantic, have a sense of humor, or are a serious martial artist, i.e. sensei22. You may also choose to use your name or nickname followed by numbers. For safety and privacy, avoid using your full name.
Because photos greatly increase responses to your profile, and many people won't respond to those without one, choose your photos wisely. For your main photo, post a recent, good-quality face or head-and-shoulders shot, one where you're smiling. Post action and more creative shots in the "additional photos" section. Avoid using photos with other people in them, shots that hide your face, and photos that do not honestly represent the real you.
Next, to inspire a potential date to read more of your profile, you'll create a header, which usually appears under your username. The message should be unique and captivating. Be romantic, funny, philosophical, or clever, like this one on the Online Dating Magazine top-ten list: "Just like a new job, I offer excellent benefits." You can also use your profile header to target your results: "Debonair midlife gentleman seeks travel-minded woman over 50." Don't be too specific, or you risk filtering out all of your prospects! When you're feeling creative, write additional headers and rotate them into your profile every couple of weeks to freshen it up and attract new interest.
When writing your profile, focus on the positive. Talk about what you enjoy doing, what makes you happy, how you relax and have fun, and what you're hoping to gain through online dating. A dating profile is not the place for negativity, so don't discuss your rocky past or post a laundry list of what drives you crazy! Instead of using a long string of adjectives describing yourself: smart, funny, athletic, intelligent, write descriptively. Instead of saying "I like to go out to eat," say, "I love Pad Thai with scallops, shrimp, garlic, and noodles, hot and spicy with lots of lemon. Join me?"
Don't wait until you have "the perfect profile" before you start online dating! Get started now by following Sensei's guidelines, and doing your best to express through your profile who you are and what you're looking for. You can fine-tune it as you go along to improve your results, until you're getting responses from the right type of dates for you.All Articles